Well, it took a long 3 1/2 years but this past month I finally received a final divorce decree. This was after a 2 week long trial on all issues. I thought to myself “finally”! And while I believe there’s never a “winner” in a divorce, especially if it goes to trial (with the exception of the divorce attorneys of course), I felt I had “won”. There were so many lies and allegations thrown out by my ex and her attorney during the past 3 1/2 years; the judge didn’t believe most of them. And in this respect, I feel vindicated. Of course, the fact that the settlement offers I had made at the beginning of this whole process was substantially better than what she had gotten at trial was completely lost on her.
So I was feeling happy and relieved that it was finally over! And looking forward to starting over both personally and financially (3 1/2 years of endless senseless motions, depositions, and temporary hearings have done a number on my credit and finances).
…that is until a week later, I got an email from my attorney with attachments showing post-judgement motions my ex had filed. Motion for Reconsideration and Motion for a New Trial! My heart sank. The only bright side was that it wasn’t about custody. It was about money and going after some pot of gold at the end of the rainbow that doesn’t exist. So now we have to wait another couple of months to go back to divorce court for a hearing on these motions. The irrationality of it all…
My attorney says that such motions are rarely granted so I am trying to keep my spirits up and staying focused on my boy. Having been financially drained by this divorce, I may not be able to give him all the nice things I wish I could have, but what I have to give is my time and my love.